Coffee could be hard for us to have, though….

I know I owe you a letter….

After Bug was born, in those first few months I wasn’t sleeping because she wouldn’t sleep and wanted to eat constantly. I was sleep deprived and nothing prepared me for that. Some woman put her kids in the back of the car and drove into a lake. At the time, everyone was going on and on about how horrible she was. I sat there, understood it completely, and it made perfect sense. After that, I decided to never judge another mom about anything they do. It’s ten years later and I still live by that. People go through enormous changes when there are kids involved. Our society isn’t very kid friendly for a lot of reasons (parents work, kids are not welcome, the press making parents freak out and being helicopter parents, big changes that are done in secrecy, etc.) How a person deals with being alone, with a screaming infant who is colicky, no sleep, no eating, can’t go to the bathroom because this infant is attached to them, hasn’t showered in three days, and this has gone on for weeks if not months. There is no logic and the parent is trapped and not okay. There is no telling where that parents mind is. It’s easy to judge them when you have had a good night’s sleep. Any otherwise mentally sane person is going to lose it if they are a new parent with no sleep for weeks.

Sadly, many in your class won’t know this till they have their own and been there. I will never judge a parent, even if they kill their kid. Yeah, it’s bad, I would never do it, but there is still a little part of my reptilian brain that gets it.